Parenting evolves with every generation, with new technological developments and changing human behavior patterns. There are, however, some things every individual should have in them. Montessori believes that regardless of your financial, time, or any other constraints, here are three gifts you should give your children now.
We all like to have close relationships with people and want our children. The focal point to achieve this is empathy. Keeping that in mind, you should not address your frustrated and crying child with a ‘You are fine!”. Instead, go back in time and think of the last time you were having a bad day. How would you have felt if your friend told you to ‘Buck up!” Just as adults crave emotional support and understanding, so do children. When we have a sad child at our pre-school, we tell him that we understand his feelings and offer to console him with words to make him feel better. Empathy can only be taught through practice.
There is no stressing how important this gift is. Our daycare teachers say ‘I love you to their students every day. Many parents have started saying ‘I love you to their children every day- this is not just an emotion; they are words that create a warm and loving family culture. These three simple words plant an important message in children. Children who grow up with unconditional love grow to be more confident, caring, and loving individuals.
As parents and caregivers, we feel that our major role is in solving problems children face. Yet, we have learned from the children at our daycare that listening trumps solving anytime! Seeing your kids for who they are and listening to them is far more important than churning out solutions for them.
Listen to your child, love your child and empathize with your child – you cannot go wrong with parenting!